Strategies to Deal with Conflicts Between Parents and Students


Conflicts between parents and students are not uncommon. It is the parents’ job to make sure their children behave, but there are times when parents will go too far with punishments or discipline that they believe is appropriate. Students also have responsibilities for following rules set by schools, but there are times where they feel like it’s unfair to be punished more harshly than other students who were involved in the same incident.

There are many different strategies parents can use to deal with conflicts that happen at home or school. Some of these include many activities on your own so parents can learn to respect you and the other parents, taking a break from school if parents are making it impossible for you to focus on your studies or feel safe.

So here are some strategies to remove these conflicts between parents and students.

Taking time outs from each other:

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Parents and students should take a break of 24 hours when they feel like things are getting too heated or out of control. This will help everyone to calm down and hopefully come up with a plan that is agreeable to both parties. Parents should also make sure not to talk about the conflict when the student is home, as this may only add fuel to the fire.

Parenting classes:

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Parents and students can also take parenting classes to learn more about effective ways of communicating with each other. These types of classes should be taken together as a family/team so parents will know how they are doing throughout the restorative process. Parents should also model respectful behavior so the student can learn how to do the same.

Talking about feelings openly and honestly:

Parents should talk with their children when they are in conflict, parents should not assume that their child already knows how to solve the problem or deal with a different situation. Parents should also be sure to listen to what the child has to say and take their feelings into account when making decisions about how to handle the conflict.

Setting boundaries for behavior both at home and school together as a family/team:

Parents should work with their children to create rules that are appropriate for the house or school. If parents feel like they do not have time in addition to working, going to school, and taking care of the home, they can set up rules together for homework, chores, internet usage, etc.

Modeling respectful behavior:

Parents and students should model appropriate behavior to each other so they can learn from their own examples. parents should also be sure not to talk about the conflict when the student is home, as this may only add fuel to the fire.

Taking a break from school if parents are making it impossible for you to focus on your studies or feel safe:

Parents should not try and threaten their child’s education when they do something wrong. If students have been receiving threats, then parents can work with the principal of the school to get a break from attending school until the parents can learn how to behave appropriately.

Conclusion

These are just a few of the many strategies that parents and students can use when they are in conflict with each other. Hopefully, by using some or all of these methods, parents and students will be able to communicate more effectively and come to a resolution that is fair to both parties. Parents and students should take a break of 24 hours when they feel like things are getting too heated or out of control. This will help everyone to calm down and hopefully come up with a plan that is agreeable to both parties. Parents should also make sure not to talk about the conflict when the student is home, as this may only add fuel to the fire. Parents and students should also take parenting classes to learn more about effective ways of communicating with each other. These types of classes should be taken together as a family/team so parents will know how they are doing throughout the restorative process. Parents should talk with their children when they are in conflict, parents should not assume that their child already knows how to solve the problem or deal with a different situation.

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